You and your girlfriend are probably pretty close. You may even live together. But marriage is a whole other ballgame when it comes to thinking for two because, legally, youre kinda, sorta one. Maybe the best way to look at it is to think of marriage like double vision. From now on, youll be seeing two of everything. Two plates on the table. Two embroidered robes for Christmas. And, of course, two wonderful, loving families to visit when Christmastime comes. (About the only thing that wont be doubled is enough time to visit both.)
Planning a wedding is a major commitment. It goes without saying that marriage, itself, is a major commitment, too thats the whole point. So when you choose to propose, youre choosing to make some major life changes. And theyre nice changes, really. But its still good to know what youre in for.
Heres a litmus test: Can you see yourself calling your girlfriend your fiancיe for the next six, twelve, or however many months it takes to plan your wedding? Or can you at least see yourself admitting you goofed up every time she complains that you called her your girlfriend… yet again? This is the sort of thing youll want to know you can handle. Its a small change, you know, but you do want to call her your wife.
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